I'm a conflict mediator and life coach, so I see all kinds of conflicts and some of these situations still leave me feeling powerless. Healthy professional distance aside, we all feel physical discomfort when we see people in conflict. Sometimes at the end of my day, I need a hot shower or a meditation in order to move on with own my life. The tool in particular I get back to for a solid reset, I call radical unification. It's a version of the tantric Inner Marriage, where two polar opposite points of view, melt together.

This technique doesn't just 'make everything ok'.

It allows me to become more present with the moment, without letting the different 'sides' continue to battle it out in my mind, unconsciously. I take my active focus towards the physical sensation of discomfort -without the story of the conflict- and I relax into the sensation…